Great sex doesn’t require fancy toys. You don’t need sexy lingerie or a dizzying repertoire of dirty talk, and you DEFINITELY don’t need a ton of experience to give any lover a memorable romp.
Often, porn-star sex just requires you to ditch the script of boring bedroom habits and your standby, tried-and-true positions. To do so, I’ve compiled a simple list of variations you can make on old favorites. All these tricks are easy enough for anyone — even someone who’s never left the missionary position — to incorporate.
But definitely leave the missionary position, too. At least every now and then.
Use all fours
When he’s going down on you, gently find his genitals with your toes and feet (don’t kick him in the balls, please) and use those paws to stimulate his balls and penis. As long as your toenails are trimmed (and your feet aren’t cold), this extra attention tends to be appreciated. If he squirms away, he’s not into it.
Behold the G-spot
Here, here. When you’re digitally stimulating a vagina, curve your fingers into a hooked shape and point the tips of those fingers in the direction of her belly button. Most people’s G-spots are located about 1-2in on their anterior wall.
Move your focus beyond the nipple
When manually touching breasts, don’t go straight to a woman’s nipples every single time. And DO NOT twist them like you’re tuning a radio dial. Touch her underboob! If you are facing your partner, cup the creases of her breasts in your hands, and stroke her sternum with your thumbs. This oft-ignored area is close to your heart, and is rarely touched. It’s intimate and unexpected.
Open up to get deep
Your gag reflex prevents you from choking to death on your food, but I’m a firm believe in mind over matter — even if that matter is longer than 6in. If you’re wanting to deep-throat a penis or toy, relax your throat instead of sucking tight. Your uvula is the dangling bit that triggers a gag, so try to keep the head of the phallus pointed down the back of your throat. Keep breathing slowly and deeply, relax your tongue, and flop it out of your mouth. You’re not a porn star yet, but keep practicing.
Put a ring on it
If he’s having a difficult time staying hard, or if you want him to swell up slightly more, form a circle with your finger and thumb at the base of his penis. Or, if you just want to prolong him, do this. You’ll have to be able to reach around yourself for this to be successful — but most people can manage it in missionary and doggy positions.
Do not hyperventilate
If you want to moan like the sexually sophisticated, think yoga breaths. Breathe slightly slower and more deeply than is typical, and relax your voice box upon exhaling.
Be porny
Instead of spreading her vulva, gently pinch the meat of your partner’s labia between your index and middle finger. It alters the sensation for both of you, and her bits will looks engorged (which men and women seem to love).
Give a reach-around
Whether you’re a man or woman. If you’re being penetrated from behind, rub/tickle/touch your partner’s front genitals. Rub her clit. Squeeze his penis.
Ride something different
If your lover is on his back, blow him with your mouth while you grind on his leg. Multitasking is fun!
Use your nose
If you’re going down on a person with a vagina, using the tip of your nose can be a great way to stimulate their clitoris. Use your lips to kiss, lick, suck, or penetrate their vagina. You should be able to breathe just fine.
Double-stuff your face
If you’re giving a blow job, and your partner’s penis is of average or shorter length, you can probably fit his testicles inside your mouth too. Once the whole package is in, wiggle your tongue. They’ll go nuts… pun intended.
Get cheeky
Push your partner’s butt cheeks together while you penetrate her vagina. The extra meat will add stimulation. Also, a lot of people don’t like having their parts stretched apart — especially without warning. Pushing things together is what adds to the fun friction of sex.
Go gentle on the ‘do
If you’re going to pull your partner’s hair, please do it in a way that does not result in a broken neck or split ends. Gather a handful of locks from the nape of his or her neck, and tighten your hand into a fist slowly against the skin. The firm-yet-slow tug against a person’s scalp can feel euphoric, rather than abusive.
Got some fancy moves of your own? Leave your own creative ideas in the comments section for the rest of us to try.